Approval…And.. Acceptance

A mother wished her first born was a son

The dad wanted a ruler for his reign

The girl thought the hatred in their eyes was all a part of a game 

The winner claiming the throne to the terrain

The prize that she really wanted was to be daddy’s lil girl again 


We all are trying to fit into the puzzle called life. Constantly trying to be accepted …to get that special someone’s approval. We change who we really are to get accepted by society..friends and even our family. 

Now let me ask you something. The parents that gave birth to you should be able to accept you for who you are. The friends who claim to love you should definitely be able to respect your choices and decisions without asking any questions. The society that displays banners suggesting equality for all should be able to accept you for who you are. 

This world will constantly tell to change yourself to fit in. But the real gems are the ones who break their puzzle in their own significant way and showcase their inner sparkle. Do  NOT search for people’s approval because who are they to tell you to follow the rulebook. These rules of the society were made by people so they can be broken by people too. 

So my lil sparkles exceed your limits and realise that you don’t need to be a part of the game to be the winner. The throne was …is and always will be yours as long as you know where your kingdom lies šŸ’•
Lots of love 

Sparklingyours

-NšŸ’•

Just 26 lettersĀ 

Ello lil sparkles !!
Summer is slowly simmering in and I don’t know if I love it or not. The routine ice cream run is not regretted whatsoever though. A reader recently asked me to blog about how people’s words can make or break someone. So on a sticky day with ice cream all over me I decided what could change your mind about words. 

You were in your mom’s womb for more than 260 days. You have performed a complex chemical process like digestion more than 2,600 times. You have been alive for more than 26,000 hours. And you have spoken and heard more than 2,60,000 words. And the words you spoke or the words you have heard are made from only 26 letters. Yes just 26. 

If you have gone through so much ,how can you let a two digit number quantity make or break you ? How can you give it the power to dull your sparkle? If somebody hurts you with what they say just remember those words were just a mere combination of 26 letters. Even your phonebook has more number of contacts of people who love you in it. 

So when someone praises you add those 26 letters to your pride. If those 26 letters are trying to break you …press the delete button hard. Remember there’s a lot more to you than just a few alphabets. Your sparkle can NOT be defined by mere words. 
So my lil sparkles. Let’s leave the alphabets to the kindergarten toddlers and concentrate on our much more important feelings instead !!!!

Lots of love !
Sparklinglyyours 

-NšŸ–¤

What is worthless?

Ello lil sparkles !!

Worthless a small little world that could rock your entire world. Through the years I have faced a lot of rejection ,been called a lot of names. I’m sure everyone has. But the word worthless some how made the most impact. I felt my heart burn and my body cringe when somebody called me that. Who gave you the power to decide what I’m worth ? 

Although the word gives me the creeps and disgusts me , the world never stopped using it. Every now and then somebody would tell me I’m worthless. Somebody would call my friends useless. That still affects me but I have gotten better. 

A simple thought that changed my world. The things that cannot be priced are called priceless. So naturally the things , whose worth is so much that it cannot be decided should be called worthless. Doesn’t that change your whole thought process?

Every time someone tells you your worthless. Think about the friend that smiles only because of you. For them you are worth it. Remember the happiness your professor has when you tried to answer a difficult question? For them you are worth it. Most importantly remember the joy you feel when you accomplished something that was little to the world but large to you. You will realise that your worth it. 

My little sparkles your so precious that the world cannot decide your price. They are so confused and angry that they can’t put up a number as your value cause your potential is infinite. So don’t let the word worthless dampen your shine cause it means that you are beyond priceless. 

Lots of love , 

Sparklinglyyours 

-Nā™„ļø

Great ExpectationsĀ 

Ello sparkles !!Today morning I woke up expecting there to be pancakes for breakfast instead of boring plain cereal. Last night I wished the day had been better. Next week I may wish for a calm nights sleep . Now I expect my friends to be next to me. In simpler words these are expectations. 

When people have huge expectations from us it feels like a huge deal. When we expect things from others it feels more normal. We all have expectations some little , some large. We all are expected to do certain duties. Live a certain life a certain way. 

Trust me being a daughter of a well known father comes with great expectations. I’m expected to be always happy , friendly and kind. And sometimes it can get to you. But to balance it i get to have great experiences too

But I’ll give u a perspective that helps me. Think of a shelf at a certain height. If the shelf is at your height you can easily put an object in. If it’s a bit higher you can tip ur toes to reach it. But if it’s too high there is no point in trying. 

You know when to stop trying when you see the height of the shelf. In the same way. People will always have expectations for you. If it’s your cup of tea go for it. Pat yourself cause you did a great job. If it’s a bit demanding give it all your strength. Tip your toes. You will eventually conquer your quests. But if the expectations are set too high ignore it. When you know that it’s set at an unfair height you know that there’s no point in bringing yourself down for it. 

We all have different heights. In the same way we all have different capacities, different strengths, varied weaknesses. And expectation that someone has for you comes with a certain bar of potential that they think you have. If you can work hard enough to cross it well and good. But if you can’t, what’s the point in loosing your mind on an expectation that wasn’t sane in the first place. 
So give yourself a chance. 

Expectations are supposed to make you rise and shine better, not to dull your sparkle. Use it as a fuel to ur rocket and not as an explosive to your dreams
All the love 

Sparklinglyyours 

-N 
Dedicated to a great reader and an even closer friend Bliss who wanted me to write on this topic. Thank u for all the support and love sweetie ā¤ļø

It’s OKĀ 

Ello sparkles !!When I was little every day was a great day. I woke up late ….studied if I wanted to …ate what I want …got what I wanted. Being the first girl in the family came with its privileges. A few years after that my biggest problem was not doing my homework or not liking what’s for lunch. Fast forward a bit and then being teased was the trouble of the day. Then I lost my brother in an accident and things were mundane. 

A few years later NOW my biggest problems are getting the best grades in a test, the weights on the scale …what my friends think about me … and constantly trying to be my best. But the conclusion is that the problems changed everyday , every month , every year. And I’m still alive 

I’m still breathing and 90% of my days are happy days. There are days when I feel in the dumps. When everything about everyone seems wrong but if I could get through all of it for 17 years surely I could do so for the rest of my life ,right ? 
I cannot believe that it took me so long to realise that it was OK to have a bad day. It was OK to feel completely useless. It was OK to fight with the people you love cause they are not going anywhere. 
Anxiety…Jitters and tears were a part of life and getting it out once in a while is OK. There will be days when I feel so good. In my own little corner but the next day might be the absolute worst. And that was OK
So next time when you have a bad day …when anxiety strikes or panic breaks remember that You are  OK. You are still alive after so many trials so this new problem is just an older one with a changed tag. 
Having a bad day is a gentle reminder that the sparkle around you is getting over and it’s time for you to surround yourself with some inner sunshine 
All the love 
Sparklinglyyours 

-N

Everlasting EffortsĀ 

Ola My lil sparkles !!

Today as I write this post sitting in bed tears threatening to spill I think about the efforts. The ones that I have been making ,the ones that I chose not to make. 

I think efforts co relate with decisions. If you decide to do something then to put it through you need to put some love , sweat and sparkle into it. 2 years back I made a decision to become a doctor. Next year this time I’ll be counting the days to write my Med School Entrance Exam. Ya gives me the creeps. 

I knew it was gonna be tough. Heck it’s a lot tougher than I thought it would be. But the studies is not the hardest part of it. It’s the demotivation. That I get when my efforts are not recognised or they are not fruitful. When I spend sleepless nights studying on a test and then the results are not as good as I want them to be. And then my professors tell me that I have immense capacity I just need to work a bit more. 

It kinda blows my mind away. But today I realised something. These efforts that I make might be enough for me but not enough for my future. Like a long time investment I’ll reap its benefits after a few years. When I’ll be earning a good living and being unconditionally happy. 

So what I have decided from know on is I’ll put in the efforts. Maybe more than before and stop worrying about the outcome. I’ll always know that I tried and who knows in the near future these unnoticeable efforts will sparkle my life. 
Love yourself and your dreams 

Sparklinglyyours 

-NšŸ’›

Colourful EggsĀ 

  Ello guys !!!
Happy Easter !!! My moms Christian so I get to celebrate easter and Christmas and all things nice. I also get to eat delicious food. Endless dishes and delicacies. We live really far from my grandmothers so whenever we come home she makes every dish that is on the menu. 

I also get to eat splendid Easter eggs. My mom got a basket of chocolate Easter eggs home and within minutes they disappeared into thin air. The dark chocolate ones ….the white chocolates …the tiny mini ones as well as the huge giant ones. They all came with different wrappers different colours. But in the end they were all gone. 
The sparkly glitter wrapped eggs left a sparkle in my mind. When it’s chocolate the size, shape ,colour ,covers don’t matter. But when it comes to something much more significant like people how does all this start to matter. 
How do the dark skinned gods get an inferior preference when they too have a fair heart. How do the light skinned beauties get no credit for their hard work cause people think things come easy to the white. 
We come in different wrappers but aren’t we all filled with delicious sweet stuff. 
There are some Easter eggs whose expiry date has passed those you definitely need to throw away. But when the eggs are disfigured we still eat it all cause in the end it’s all just chocolate. Everybody has faults but in the end we all are humans trying to be happy. 
So this easter when you eat an Easter egg learn to accept everyone cause we lovely sparkly people come in all shapes ,sizes and colours. 
Lots of love 

Sparklinglyyours 

-N