Approval…And.. Acceptance

A mother wished her first born was a son

The dad wanted a ruler for his reign

The girl thought the hatred in their eyes was all a part of a game 

The winner claiming the throne to the terrain

The prize that she really wanted was to be daddy’s lil girl again 


We all are trying to fit into the puzzle called life. Constantly trying to be accepted …to get that special someone’s approval. We change who we really are to get accepted by society..friends and even our family. 

Now let me ask you something. The parents that gave birth to you should be able to accept you for who you are. The friends who claim to love you should definitely be able to respect your choices and decisions without asking any questions. The society that displays banners suggesting equality for all should be able to accept you for who you are. 

This world will constantly tell to change yourself to fit in. But the real gems are the ones who break their puzzle in their own significant way and showcase their inner sparkle. Do  NOT search for people’s approval because who are they to tell you to follow the rulebook. These rules of the society were made by people so they can be broken by people too. 

So my lil sparkles exceed your limits and realise that you don’t need to be a part of the game to be the winner. The throne was …is and always will be yours as long as you know where your kingdom lies 💕
Lots of love 

Sparklingyours

-N💕

Shopping for love

Ello lil sparkles !!

Everyone out there has gone shopping once in their life time. I have gone a thousand times myself. One thing I always noticed is that it takes time to find what you really want. But on some lucky days you might enter a store and within minutes you might find your perfect match. The right colour…the right size ….the perfect fitting…and most importantly the perfect prize. 

On most of the days , when the shopping gods are not smiling at you it might take you ages to find an item that checks all your requirements. Sometimes you might not find anything at all. But the next time you come , you might get a few good options from which you could chose a great one. 

The point is when we are spending our money we are cautious to find something so perfect. You do NOT want to buy a size too big , or too small Gucci shoes cause well that would be a causality wouldn’t it? We wait …we think …we judge…finally we choose.

So how are we so careless when it comes to spending ourselves. When it comes to giving up our mind ….our soul…our body…our existence to a certain significant other WHY are we in a haste? Your sparkle is much more important than that Channel dress or that Prada scarf. So give your self twice the thought when it comes to selling yourself to someone. 

A good product is a best friend. Its loyal … it’s worth the price…it adds to your beauty and most importantly it doesn’t give up on you when you need it the most. So find someone who is your best friend. Who is worth your time. Who adds to your sparkle but never dulls it…and most importantly NEVER gives up on you. 

So my lil sparkles I hope you all find true love. Some might find it as soon as they enter the world. Others might try a few shoes before finding their knight in shining armour. But many will find them with patience and trust me its worth the wait. 

All the love 
Sparklinglyyours

-N❤️
Thanks to a reader who asked me to write about choices when it comes to love. Hope I touched your heart ☺️

Just 26 letters 

Ello lil sparkles !!
Summer is slowly simmering in and I don’t know if I love it or not. The routine ice cream run is not regretted whatsoever though. A reader recently asked me to blog about how people’s words can make or break someone. So on a sticky day with ice cream all over me I decided what could change your mind about words. 

You were in your mom’s womb for more than 260 days. You have performed a complex chemical process like digestion more than 2,600 times. You have been alive for more than 26,000 hours. And you have spoken and heard more than 2,60,000 words. And the words you spoke or the words you have heard are made from only 26 letters. Yes just 26. 

If you have gone through so much ,how can you let a two digit number quantity make or break you ? How can you give it the power to dull your sparkle? If somebody hurts you with what they say just remember those words were just a mere combination of 26 letters. Even your phonebook has more number of contacts of people who love you in it. 

So when someone praises you add those 26 letters to your pride. If those 26 letters are trying to break you …press the delete button hard. Remember there’s a lot more to you than just a few alphabets. Your sparkle can NOT be defined by mere words. 
So my lil sparkles. Let’s leave the alphabets to the kindergarten toddlers and concentrate on our much more important feelings instead !!!!

Lots of love !
Sparklinglyyours 

-N🖤

Great Expectations 

Ello sparkles !!Today morning I woke up expecting there to be pancakes for breakfast instead of boring plain cereal. Last night I wished the day had been better. Next week I may wish for a calm nights sleep . Now I expect my friends to be next to me. In simpler words these are expectations. 

When people have huge expectations from us it feels like a huge deal. When we expect things from others it feels more normal. We all have expectations some little , some large. We all are expected to do certain duties. Live a certain life a certain way. 

Trust me being a daughter of a well known father comes with great expectations. I’m expected to be always happy , friendly and kind. And sometimes it can get to you. But to balance it i get to have great experiences too

But I’ll give u a perspective that helps me. Think of a shelf at a certain height. If the shelf is at your height you can easily put an object in. If it’s a bit higher you can tip ur toes to reach it. But if it’s too high there is no point in trying. 

You know when to stop trying when you see the height of the shelf. In the same way. People will always have expectations for you. If it’s your cup of tea go for it. Pat yourself cause you did a great job. If it’s a bit demanding give it all your strength. Tip your toes. You will eventually conquer your quests. But if the expectations are set too high ignore it. When you know that it’s set at an unfair height you know that there’s no point in bringing yourself down for it. 

We all have different heights. In the same way we all have different capacities, different strengths, varied weaknesses. And expectation that someone has for you comes with a certain bar of potential that they think you have. If you can work hard enough to cross it well and good. But if you can’t, what’s the point in loosing your mind on an expectation that wasn’t sane in the first place. 
So give yourself a chance. 

Expectations are supposed to make you rise and shine better, not to dull your sparkle. Use it as a fuel to ur rocket and not as an explosive to your dreams
All the love 

Sparklinglyyours 

-N 
Dedicated to a great reader and an even closer friend Bliss who wanted me to write on this topic. Thank u for all the support and love sweetie ❤️

Beauty in sizes 

Ello lil sparkles !!

 All my life I have heard people talk about a physical quantity….you know something that can be measured…calculated…added …defined. But most often this physical quantity is judged. Velocity…distance …time is directly proportional to a lot of things but being a physics student I have never heard that weight is directly proportional to beauty. 


Growing up being a chubby kid had always been hard. My friends …mates …colleagues…relatives heck even my parents never really thought that my size was a beautiful one. Family dinners and parties were filled with old people giving me DIY tips or gym numbers. Trainers that had made a difference before. 

Even today people keep telling me that I’m curvy , for gods sake I know. I own a mirror and I love the reflection I see. My parents and relatives tell me to eat less or comment on my choices as if not eating a slice of pizza was going to make me happy. Lol

I failed to understand how or why being chubby and curvy when I was 5 and 6 was cute but when I’m 17 it’s obscene. I have tried numerous diets and countless ways but I was never taught to be happy in my own skin. My best friends are really skinny and they are so beautiful for me but they think I’m beautiful too even though I’m a few sizes extra and a few kgs over. I’m not unhealthy I don’t have health issues …then how does being curvy stop me from being beautiful. 
I think it’s time for people to stop being crazy about size 0 cause I’m sure you can feel a perfect 💯 even if your a size 10. Last year I  lost a few pounds. And I did that cause I thought it would be better for me so for people who asked me if I did it for a guy or if I was disgusted with myself the answer is NO. 

If you think you need a change , do it for yourselves cause I think beauty comes in all sizes be it a zero or a hundred. And why should we let numbers define our infinite potential? So let me sparkle in my own size and let my fellow mates breathe in their own body!!
Lots of love 

Sparklinglyyours 

-N💕

Everlasting Efforts 

Ola My lil sparkles !!

Today as I write this post sitting in bed tears threatening to spill I think about the efforts. The ones that I have been making ,the ones that I chose not to make. 

I think efforts co relate with decisions. If you decide to do something then to put it through you need to put some love , sweat and sparkle into it. 2 years back I made a decision to become a doctor. Next year this time I’ll be counting the days to write my Med School Entrance Exam. Ya gives me the creeps. 

I knew it was gonna be tough. Heck it’s a lot tougher than I thought it would be. But the studies is not the hardest part of it. It’s the demotivation. That I get when my efforts are not recognised or they are not fruitful. When I spend sleepless nights studying on a test and then the results are not as good as I want them to be. And then my professors tell me that I have immense capacity I just need to work a bit more. 

It kinda blows my mind away. But today I realised something. These efforts that I make might be enough for me but not enough for my future. Like a long time investment I’ll reap its benefits after a few years. When I’ll be earning a good living and being unconditionally happy. 

So what I have decided from know on is I’ll put in the efforts. Maybe more than before and stop worrying about the outcome. I’ll always know that I tried and who knows in the near future these unnoticeable efforts will sparkle my life. 
Love yourself and your dreams 

Sparklinglyyours 

-N💛